Are You Wasting Your Life?

A lot of times, I’ll be sitting in bed at 3 A.M. staring at the ceiling and thinking about the most random things. Sometimes that is where I get ideas for my blog, others it is just me wondering how the world would be if we all could breathe underwater.

As a teenager, I happen to be a part of what we call “fandoms”. I refer to myself as band trash and follow the lives of people who don’t even know I exist. Last night, I thought about this in a little more depth.

What was I accomplishing by knowing things I really shouldn’t about these people? When I look back on my life, am I really only going to see that all these other people have done so much, but all I did was watch?

This isn’t necessarily the only case of wasting time. I live vicariously through others, but there are many other ways to lead a life that may not really be worth living.

You may just procrastinate(I also do this), or you are doing something that isn’t necessarily exciting or interesting to you.

None of these things seem to be good in regards to living life to the fullest.

While doing some of these things is perfectly fine sometimes, they most definitely should not get in the way of your actual life. Your life is just as important as the next person’s, so why shouldn’t you be doing something worthwhile?

There is an unfortunate fact that we all have to face one day and the sooner we do, the better.

Life is short.

While you may be thinking you have all the time in the world, life is flying by. There are so many things we may never get to do because we wasted all of our time that we could have been living life.

Now, thinking too hard about how short life is can lead to an existential crisis, which can be even worse than just sitting on a computer and scrolling through fan pages all day.

My suggestion is to just find what makes you happy, and do it. Spend time doing what brightens your mood and remember that you only have one life. One fragile, extremely short life.

What are you going to do with it?

 

Unconventional Love.

Unconventional Love

Love is a beautiful and amazing thing. Some people find it, others may spend a lifetime looking in the wrong places. Nevertheless, love is love.

Keeping that in mind, who is to say what is considered “unconventional”? In this day and age, everything has happened when it comes to love.

There are the girls who decided that they like a girl, or a guy who likes a guy, which in my opinion, is completely fine. I’d encourage you to do that if it means you are happy. Just because someone has different beliefs than you, doesn’t make them invalid beliefs. Those people deserve happiness just as you do.

Recently, I’ve also found that there are people who decide to abuse others in the field of love. Maybe these people have been around for centuries, but I feel as though it has become a bigger problem latterly. They decide that others’ feelings don’t matter. All they want is either to hurt people, or just want love physically. That’s just wrong. Especially since there are people who fall for this type of people over and over again.

Then they may never know love if it hit them in the face. All because they’ve never experienced it. They only experience hurt.

In conclusion, I feel like there shouldn’t be such a thing as “unconventional love”. Love is love and whether you agree with it or not, it is still happening and I think they deserve that. Everyone deserves love. It doesn’t matter who it comes from, it just has to be true, emotional, love. It’s all the same, just directed toward different people(unless you use “love” just to get in someone’s pants, in which case you can leave).

And I mean, there are people who marry inanimate objects, such as a tree. So at least these people are wanting to marry real beings(but if marrying a tree is what you want to do, I guess go for it).

 

Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone.

Our little bubble of comfort is a great thing to just live inside. We don’t need to worry about anything scary or foreign because we are protected by the bubble. Living inside of this confined space is a good thing, as long as you don’t know the reality.

Hold up your hand and make the ‘okay’ sign. Look at the circle that is formed by the pointer finger and thumb. That is your comfort zone.

Our comfort zones are only that big. There is a whole world of possibilities outside if that small space. Do you really want to spend all of your limited time here on Earth sticking to that small zone of comfort? I mean, there can only be so much in the bubble.

Getting out of your comfort zone can be a scary thing to do. We don’t want to leave because that means uncertainty and anxiety, but I think a little anxiety is a good thing. It makes us try a little harder to succeed when in the right portion.

Obviously, you aren’t going to be comfortable with what you are doing, so of course you won’t be the greatest at it at first. But that’s the joy of it.

You have the opportunity to learn new things, even if you make mistakes.

Maybe I’m the only one, but I always feel motivated when I try and enjoy something new. If you are looking for motivation, try something new and see where it takes you.

The thing with humans is that usually, we end up in boredom if we continue the same routine over and over again. We need change, even if it’s meager.

Your area of security allows only so much change to occur. Eventually all the change that could happen, has happened. Which is why we need to go and explore uneasy options.

Now I’m not saying to go and do something that is going too far out there. There are three areas of comfort and discomfort: the comfort zone, the learning zone, and the panic zone. Don’t go too far that you end up in the panic zone, but just far enough to be in the learning zone.

One of the good things about this learning new things is that once you learn them, you become more relaxed with them and eventually, they become a part of your comfort zone. As you go along, it only grows.

So go. Try something you wouldn’t normally do. Get yourself to do anything that involves something new. You never know, you could find a new passion that you’ll love for the rest of your life. Even if you are just trying to cook something a bit more complicated, I’m sure you won’t regret it.

You Can Do It.

Not every moment is a great one.

This is a sad and unfortunate truth. But putting a positive prospective on it, would the good moments be as good if the bad ones didn’t exist? It’s a struggle to get through the bad times in life, especially when they last weeks, months, or even years.

Whatever it is that you are going through right now, I’m here to tell you 4 important words.

You can do this.

Tough times aren’t a good time. That’s probably the best way to say that. Whether you are being physically, emotionally, or mentally strained and hurt, I know you will power through. It’s somewhere deep within you. You just have to dig a little deeper is all. Unfortunately, you don’t always have control over every aspect of your life, but you can make the most of what you can do.

When you are going through a rough time, sometimes it’s hard to stay strong and to think about the good things in your life. You are most definitely strong enough to do this. It may not feel like it, but you are. There is so much potential for greatness inside of you.

A simple tip is to just forget what has hurt you. Focus on the good things, but don’t forget what the pain taught you because more often than not, it teaches a lesson.

We all go through different hardships. That might be part of what makes the time after so hard. No one will understand something in the same way you do. Someone could go through the same situation, but will always experience it differently emotionally.

This may also be why loneliness exists even when you aren’t alone.

But this can also teach independence. We need to learn to not rely on others for support.

Sometimes we need to support ourselves.

Having others is an important thing as we cannot always help ourselves, which is absolutely fine. But we should know how to be self-sufficient in harrowing occasions.

In conclusion, you are an amazing person that can do anything if you put your mind to it. Anything and everything is possible if you work hard enough. Even if others don’t believe in you, I do.

You know what I say, work hard, be successful, and prove them all wrong. If you ever doubt yourself, just remember the 4 words.

You can do it.

 

 

Why Weight and Looks Don’t Matter.

A big problem that our society has created is the unrealistic standards of beauty. That only certain girls are considered “pretty” because they weigh 100 pounds and just happen to be considered more attractive than others, or a guy that’s tall and has a 6-pack and chiseled jawline is immediately “hot”.

It’s all just wrong.

Now I’m not saying you aren’t beautiful if you look like that, but the moment that they become considered better than anyone else, that’s when we have a problem. No one, and I mean no one, under these types of circumstances is better than anyone else.

We all have different body types. Some are naturally bigger than others, but that doesn’t mean that they are ugly. These people just have more curves, and curves are believed to be attractive. Now weighing too much can still be an issue because of health problems, but you still don’t have to feel bad about how you look. You look amazing the way you are, and some day, someone is going to see that and love you no matter what. Attractiveness is all about personal preference, so why do we force our own personal preferences on someone else?

When someone says that they only like people with blonde hair, or blue eyes, or won’t date someone unless that person is taller than them, it baffles me. These people could be rejecting a person that is absolutely perfect for them just because they don’t have the right hair color to fit their preference. Having a preference is fine, but if you won’t even give anyone else a chance, then it isn’t right. People should be falling in love with others for their personality, not their looks.

These days, the word ‘fat’ has become an insult. It probably always was, but that’s not the point. The point is that it shouldn’t be. That word is just describing a different body type. It’d be like pointing at a girl who is 6 feet tall and saying, “You’re so tall! It’s gross! Ha ha ha ha.” It makes no sense, right? The word is only describing a body type, just as the word ‘skinny’ does.

Another thing that I’d like to cover is more directed toward teens, but really can be anyone. Acne. Acne is a completely normal thing, yet we’ve decided it isn’t attractive. Some people get more acne than others, and that’s okay. It doesn’t make them less attractive because of it. I happen to get much more acne, and I’m slowly starting to realize that it really doesn’t matter because a lot of people are going through the same thing. I admit it doesn’t seem like an ideal time, but it’s okay even if you don’t like it because more often than not it will go away.

Moral of the story, it doesn’t matter how you look. Whether you are skinny or not, tall or short, blonde or brunette, you are still absolutely amazing. Your whole being is beautiful in every single way. Someone out there is going to love all of the being you are for what you are. You can do what ever you please and no one can stop you because you’re too precious to be tied down to something you don’t love.

5 Things to Remember When Feeling Depressed

Our minds can often deceive us in how we see the world. Sometimes it can make us feel like everyone we know has just left or our life is just seemingly hopeless. Although a state of depression can make us lose all productivity and cause an extreme slump that’s hard to escape from, it is possible to get out of. So here are a few things to remember whilst in this hole of sadness and despair.

1. It’s okay to feel like this.

Sometimes when we are sad or feel lonely, we tend to make the mistake of thinking that we have no right to feel like this. Someone else has it worse, right? So why would I feel like this? Well, that doesn’t matter because we all have our own struggles, our own story, and our own life. All feelings you feel are valid, no matter how much worse someone else could have it. It’s okay to just take in the sadness for a while. You can take as much time as you need. But after you take this time, you also need to try to help yourself get over this state, which leads to the next point.

2. You still eventually need to move on with your life.

Taking some time off to get yourself together and try feeling better is a good idea, but it eventually needs to come to an end. Unfortunately, life doesn’t stop for anyone. We still need to do our part in the world. So while taking a break, you can dwell in the depression for a while, but eventually you need to at least try to make yourself feel a little better. I know from experience that it’s hard to do, but it’s possible. Read inspiring posts or listen to music.

3. Life gets better.

I know that when you’re sad like that it’s hard to remember that this feeling is only temporary. This isn’t forever. Everything gets better one day. Even though you feel like everything is hopeless and there is no way out, it will get better. One day, you will find someone who loves you very much or you will get a job that you wake up and get excited to go out and do(unless you’re like me and your job doesn’t involve leaving the house). Everything will be what you want it to be one day. Even if today isn’t that day, it’s okay. Be patient. Patience is one of the hardest things to have in a time of suffering, but it’s key in this situation.

4. You are doing absolutely amazing right now.

While you may be struggling, that doesn’t mean you aren’t doing great. As long as you are here on this earth still, you are perfect. And also remember you could be doing worse. But just because you aren’t in the worst case scenario, doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to feel this way. You may find that I’ll say this a lot on my blog, but I will keep saying it until it is in every single brain that processes the words I write. You are amazing in every single way. And don’t forget that.

5. The world may be cruel, but there’s some cool stuff here.

Dogs. Cats. Alpacas. Animals in general are basically the best thing about this planet. That’s just my opinion though. But not just animals, but life in general. From the forests with the variety of creatures, to the cities filled with diverse people. It’s all pretty amazing. Especially since we can observe it and just take in it’s beauty. We tend to take for granted what we have on this earth. But unfortunately, it’s not all in proper proportion. Not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally. Which is why I need to write this post. To help those who got a little smaller piece of the pie that is life. But one day that piece will grow into a blossoming future.

And it will all be okay.

If all else fails, just give it the old razzle dazzle and try to be happy. Maybe even do jazz hands behind your back to give yourself a little boost. I know that I may or may not be a help to some people, but I sure can try. No one deserves the feeling of being depressed. Especially not you. Just go with the flow and push through. I know you can do it.

 

 

You Are Worth Something

In anyone’s life, I believe that most of us have been in a situation where we feel as though the need for accomplishment leads us to a downward spiral of self-loathing and if severe enough, can become an elongated state of questioning our self worth. Maybe the stress of perfection is drilling itself into your mind. You may have blown a job interview, or you are like me and mess up everything that you do in some way. Regardless of the cause, most of us have felt this pain at some point. I can say from experience that this is a horrible feeling. But this is all just human nature. We make mistakes, and then we learn from them. Even if it takes a couple of tries, nevertheless we learn. Some of us make more than others, but that’s fine. This is all a part of life. Meaning you are still worth more than you know. You by no means are better than anyone else, but you are still very much worth everything.

Having the ability to tell yourself that you are a valuable piece of the puzzle that is human life is very difficult sometimes. It’s even harder to believe it. But if you keep telling yourself that everyday, eventually you will believe. This, like very many things, takes time. But this time is very much beneficial for you if you’re willing to take it.

One thing we all have to face at some point is the inevitability of failure. We all will fail at something. Some will fail more than others, but that’s okay. This shouldn’t in any way, shape, or form make us think we are less worthy of anything nor should it scare us away.  We still have to persevere and keep our heads up and not worry about others. We always compare ourselves to other people and their success, accomplishments, and just overall being. This is a extremely wrong way of thinking because we are all different. We all have different goals to work toward achieving and just because someone has either achieved more or just seems like they have more, doesn’t mean they are better. They may want to accomplish more to consider themselves happy, but you may not need as much. Having high expectations of yourself doesn’t mean you are better than someone else. Focus on your goals and aspirations, and then decide how much worth you put forth on yourself.

We have the tendency to forget that we are our own person. No one can change us. Only we can. Try to learn that you are the only you there is, so make the most of all the being that you are(a beautiful, amazing, and worthy human being). You have control over your life even though you may disappoint a few people along the way. Eventually, the people who want to be in your life will accept your decisions and help you reach the level of self-worth that you wish to find.

Why I’m Here.

I like to believe we all have a reason to be here on this planet. I’ve spent enough time trying to find my reason, but now I think I may have. And I’m not going to waste anymore time not pursuing it. I’m here for a couple reasons though. First, I like to write although I do not have much experience and as far as I am concerned, I am not the best writer. That is not going to stop me though. My second reason for being here is because I want to help people. Whether it’s to inspire them find their passion, help them be happier, or just get through the day, I want to help.

I’ve had depression about a while back(I now am in a better state) and while I was in the midst of hell I found a few people of the internet who helped me hold onto life a while longer. I hope to be this person for someone else.

I will hopefully be posting every week. If you decide to support me on my journey here, I would appreciate it.