Why Weight and Looks Don’t Matter.

A big problem that our society has created is the unrealistic standards of beauty. That only certain girls are considered “pretty” because they weigh 100 pounds and just happen to be considered more attractive than others, or a guy that’s tall and has a 6-pack and chiseled jawline is immediately “hot”.

It’s all just wrong.

Now I’m not saying you aren’t beautiful if you look like that, but the moment that they become considered better than anyone else, that’s when we have a problem. No one, and I mean no one, under these types of circumstances is better than anyone else.

We all have different body types. Some are naturally bigger than others, but that doesn’t mean that they are ugly. These people just have more curves, and curves are believed to be attractive. Now weighing too much can still be an issue because of health problems, but you still don’t have to feel bad about how you look. You look amazing the way you are, and some day, someone is going to see that and love you no matter what. Attractiveness is all about personal preference, so why do we force our own personal preferences on someone else?

When someone says that they only like people with blonde hair, or blue eyes, or won’t date someone unless that person is taller than them, it baffles me. These people could be rejecting a person that is absolutely perfect for them just because they don’t have the right hair color to fit their preference. Having a preference is fine, but if you won’t even give anyone else a chance, then it isn’t right. People should be falling in love with others for their personality, not their looks.

These days, the word ‘fat’ has become an insult. It probably always was, but that’s not the point. The point is that it shouldn’t be. That word is just describing a different body type. It’d be like pointing at a girl who is 6 feet tall and saying, “You’re so tall! It’s gross! Ha ha ha ha.” It makes no sense, right? The word is only describing a body type, just as the word ‘skinny’ does.

Another thing that I’d like to cover is more directed toward teens, but really can be anyone. Acne. Acne is a completely normal thing, yet we’ve decided it isn’t attractive. Some people get more acne than others, and that’s okay. It doesn’t make them less attractive because of it. I happen to get much more acne, and I’m slowly starting to realize that it really doesn’t matter because a lot of people are going through the same thing. I admit it doesn’t seem like an ideal time, but it’s okay even if you don’t like it because more often than not it will go away.

Moral of the story, it doesn’t matter how you look. Whether you are skinny or not, tall or short, blonde or brunette, you are still absolutely amazing. Your whole being is beautiful in every single way. Someone out there is going to love all of the being you are for what you are. You can do what ever you please and no one can stop you because you’re too precious to be tied down to something you don’t love.


You Are Worth Something

In anyone’s life, I believe that most of us have been in a situation where we feel as though the need for accomplishment leads us to a downward spiral of self-loathing and if severe enough, can become an elongated state of questioning our self worth. Maybe the stress of perfection is drilling itself into your mind. You may have blown a job interview, or you are like me and mess up everything that you do in some way. Regardless of the cause, most of us have felt this pain at some point. I can say from experience that this is a horrible feeling. But this is all just human nature. We make mistakes, and then we learn from them. Even if it takes a couple of tries, nevertheless we learn. Some of us make more than others, but that’s fine. This is all a part of life. Meaning you are still worth more than you know. You by no means are better than anyone else, but you are still very much worth everything.

Having the ability to tell yourself that you are a valuable piece of the puzzle that is human life is very difficult sometimes. It’s even harder to believe it. But if you keep telling yourself that everyday, eventually you will believe. This, like very many things, takes time. But this time is very much beneficial for you if you’re willing to take it.

One thing we all have to face at some point is the inevitability of failure. We all will fail at something. Some will fail more than others, but that’s okay. This shouldn’t in any way, shape, or form make us think we are less worthy of anything nor should it scare us away.  We still have to persevere and keep our heads up and not worry about others. We always compare ourselves to other people and their success, accomplishments, and just overall being. This is a extremely wrong way of thinking because we are all different. We all have different goals to work toward achieving and just because someone has either achieved more or just seems like they have more, doesn’t mean they are better. They may want to accomplish more to consider themselves happy, but you may not need as much. Having high expectations of yourself doesn’t mean you are better than someone else. Focus on your goals and aspirations, and then decide how much worth you put forth on yourself.

We have the tendency to forget that we are our own person. No one can change us. Only we can. Try to learn that you are the only you there is, so make the most of all the being that you are(a beautiful, amazing, and worthy human being). You have control over your life even though you may disappoint a few people along the way. Eventually, the people who want to be in your life will accept your decisions and help you reach the level of self-worth that you wish to find.