Are You Wasting Your Life?

A lot of times, I’ll be sitting in bed at 3 A.M. staring at the ceiling and thinking about the most random things. Sometimes that is where I get ideas for my blog, others it is just me wondering how the world would be if we all could breathe underwater.

As a teenager, I happen to be a part of what we call “fandoms”. I refer to myself as band trash and follow the lives of people who don’t even know I exist. Last night, I thought about this in a little more depth.

What was I accomplishing by knowing things I really shouldn’t about these people? When I look back on my life, am I really only going to see that all these other people have done so much, but all I did was watch?

This isn’t necessarily the only case of wasting time. I live vicariously through others, but there are many other ways to lead a life that may not really be worth living.

You may just procrastinate(I also do this), or you are doing something that isn’t necessarily exciting or interesting to you.

None of these things seem to be good in regards to living life to the fullest.

While doing some of these things is perfectly fine sometimes, they most definitely should not get in the way of your actual life. Your life is just as important as the next person’s, so why shouldn’t you be doing something worthwhile?

There is an unfortunate fact that we all have to face one day and the sooner we do, the better.

Life is short.

While you may be thinking you have all the time in the world, life is flying by. There are so many things we may never get to do because we wasted all of our time that we could have been living life.

Now, thinking too hard about how short life is can lead to an existential crisis, which can be even worse than just sitting on a computer and scrolling through fan pages all day.

My suggestion is to just find what makes you happy, and do it. Spend time doing what brightens your mood and remember that you only have one life. One fragile, extremely short life.

What are you going to do with it?

 

Unconventional Love.

Unconventional Love

Love is a beautiful and amazing thing. Some people find it, others may spend a lifetime looking in the wrong places. Nevertheless, love is love.

Keeping that in mind, who is to say what is considered “unconventional”? In this day and age, everything has happened when it comes to love.

There are the girls who decided that they like a girl, or a guy who likes a guy, which in my opinion, is completely fine. I’d encourage you to do that if it means you are happy. Just because someone has different beliefs than you, doesn’t make them invalid beliefs. Those people deserve happiness just as you do.

Recently, I’ve also found that there are people who decide to abuse others in the field of love. Maybe these people have been around for centuries, but I feel as though it has become a bigger problem latterly. They decide that others’ feelings don’t matter. All they want is either to hurt people, or just want love physically. That’s just wrong. Especially since there are people who fall for this type of people over and over again.

Then they may never know love if it hit them in the face. All because they’ve never experienced it. They only experience hurt.

In conclusion, I feel like there shouldn’t be such a thing as “unconventional love”. Love is love and whether you agree with it or not, it is still happening and I think they deserve that. Everyone deserves love. It doesn’t matter who it comes from, it just has to be true, emotional, love. It’s all the same, just directed toward different people(unless you use “love” just to get in someone’s pants, in which case you can leave).

And I mean, there are people who marry inanimate objects, such as a tree. So at least these people are wanting to marry real beings(but if marrying a tree is what you want to do, I guess go for it).

 

Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone.

Our little bubble of comfort is a great thing to just live inside. We don’t need to worry about anything scary or foreign because we are protected by the bubble. Living inside of this confined space is a good thing, as long as you don’t know the reality.

Hold up your hand and make the ‘okay’ sign. Look at the circle that is formed by the pointer finger and thumb. That is your comfort zone.

Our comfort zones are only that big. There is a whole world of possibilities outside if that small space. Do you really want to spend all of your limited time here on Earth sticking to that small zone of comfort? I mean, there can only be so much in the bubble.

Getting out of your comfort zone can be a scary thing to do. We don’t want to leave because that means uncertainty and anxiety, but I think a little anxiety is a good thing. It makes us try a little harder to succeed when in the right portion.

Obviously, you aren’t going to be comfortable with what you are doing, so of course you won’t be the greatest at it at first. But I think that’s the joy of it.

You have the opportunity to learn new things, even if you make mistakes.

Maybe I’m the only one, but I always feel motivated when I try and enjoy something new. If you are looking for motivation, try something new and see where it takes you.

The thing with humans is that usually, we end up in boredom if we continue the same routine over and over again. We need change, even if it’s meager.

Your area of security allows only so much change to occur. Eventually all the change that could happen, has happened. Which is why we need to go and explore uneasy options.

Now I’m not saying to go and do something that is going too far out there. There are three areas of comfort and discomfort: the comfort zone, the learning zone, and the panic zone. Don’t go too far that you end up in the panic zone, but just far enough to be in the learning zone.

One of the good things about this learning new things is that once you learn them, you become more relaxed with them and eventually, they become a part of your comfort zone. As you go along, it only grows.

So go. Try something you wouldn’t normally do. Get yourself to do anything that involves something new. You never know, you could find a new passion that you’ll love for the rest of your life. Even if you are just trying to cook something a bit more complicated, I’m sure you won’t regret it.

You Can Do It.

Not every moment is a great one.

This is a sad and unfortunate truth. But putting a positive prospective on it, would the good moments be as good if the bad ones didn’t exist? It’s a struggle to get through the bad times in life, especially when they last weeks, months, or even years.

Whatever it is that you are going through right now, I’m here to tell you 4 important words.

You can do this.

Tough times aren’t a good time. That’s probably the best way to say that. Whether you are being physically, emotionally, or mentally strained and hurt, I know you will power through. It’s somewhere deep within you. You just have to dig a little deeper is all. Unfortunately, you don’t always have control over every aspect of your life, but you can make the most of what you can do.

When you are going through a rough time, sometimes it’s hard to stay strong and to think about the good things in your life. You are most definitely strong enough to do this. It may not feel like it, but you are. There is so much potential for greatness inside of you.

A simple tip is to just forget what has hurt you. Focus on the good things, but don’t forget what the pain taught you because more often than not, it teaches a lesson.

We all go through different hardships. That might be part of what makes the time after so hard. No one will understand something in the same way you do. Someone could go through the same situation, but will always experience it differently emotionally.

This may also be why loneliness exists even when you aren’t alone.

But this can also teach independence. We need to learn to not rely on others for support.

Sometimes we need to support ourselves.

Having others is an important thing as we cannot always help ourselves, which that is absolutely fine. But we should know how to be self-sufficient in harrowing occasions.

In conclusion, you are an amazing person that can do anything if you put your mind to it. Anything and everything is possible if you work hard enough. Even if others don’t believe in you, I do.

You know what I say, work hard, be successful, and prove them all wrong. If you ever doubt yourself, just remember the 4 words.

You can do it.